Placing the prevention of the sexual abuse of boys at the top of the men’s rights agenda seems like a no brainer to me. First of all we save boys from a lifetime of abuse, trauma, and destruction. Period. Secondly, it will give mainstream legitimacy to our movement. Given that the protection of girls has historically been one of the leading activist goals of feminism since its origins in the 19th century Social Purity Movements, highlighting the sexual abuse of boys will demonstrate to the world that the men’s human rights movement is simply the male equivalent of feminism and part of the mainstream progressive human rights movement. Thirdly, it will attract more women into the movement, something that we all agree is needed, and once again, will provide legitimacy to our cause. Good women care about children, and putting the protection of boys at the top our agenda will attract the sort of women that we need, and that our society needs. Finally, highlighting the sexual abuse of boys will increase donations from the public and possibly even win our cause funding from government. There is a reason that child protection agencies such as the NSPCC spend a disproportionate use of resources in tackling sexual abuse, even when their own research tells them that problems such as bullying and parental divorce are affecting children much more. Sex sells, and the sexual abuse of children sells most of all. It would be foolish of us as a pragmatic and progressive human rights movement to ignore that fact. The inevitable cash flow can then be used to both prevent the abuse of boys, as well as a diverse range of other men’s human rights concerns ranging from fairness in family courts to awareness of gay rights.
That stopping the sexual abuse of boys may be a no brainer, but how to incorporate that goal into successful Men’s Human Rights Activism is a more difficult challenge. As a preliminary to further debate, I suggest the following 5 point plan :
- We commence a campaign with a snappy logo (such as ‘1 in 4 – Boys Count Too!’) together with banners and buttons linking to a donation page and encourage all genuine Men’s Human Rights Sites to display them.
- We demand that age of consent laws reflect the fact that boys mature later than girls, physically, emotionally, and sexually. Feminists performed one of their few good deeds when they raised the age of consent from 12 to 16 or 18, but such ages do not reflect the reality that boys need protecting further. We therefore propose that the age of consent be raised to 21, for both boys and girls (this is necessary to ensure equality).
- We reach out to feminists and feminist child protection groups in an effort to build bridges and to demonstrate that we share a common goal – the protection of childhood innocence. Gender politics should never stand in the way of protecting the most vulnerable in our society – girls AND boys.
- We commission University research (paid with by, say, 10% of our donations) to prove the already demonstrated statistic that 1 in 4 boys have been sexually abused, including non-contact sexual abuse*. We also fund the training of specialist therapists who are able to understand and treat the particular trauma that teenage boys go through when molested by their female teachers.
- We pursue a policy of total exclusion on those supposed men’s rights activists who question the sexual abuse of boys or girls and who call for discussion on such nauseating and suicidal topics as the age of consent. These monsters are hijacking our cause and have no further place in a progressive men’s human rights movement.
*Credit goes to the sterling work of activist and Home Run hitter TyphonBlue
Interesting factoids of the day – annual income of leading UK children’s charities :
NSPCC : largest ‘child protection’ charity, deals almost entirely in the sexual abuse of teenage girls by male sexual predators, with the physical abuse of boys and girls by their fathers a distant second. Everything else is ignored. Total Yearly Income : £ 135 million
Children with Cancer : One of the largest children’s cancer charities in the world. Spends money on helping children with cancer lead better pain free lives, as well as funding research on fighting cancer. Total Yearly Income : £ 11 million
According to the NSPCC’s own research, bullying is by far and away the biggest problem facing children and young people today, and according to young people themselves. Despite this, the NSPCC rarely promotes anti-bullying campaigns, and whenever they do mention bullying, it is almost always in relation to supposed ‘sexual bullying’ or sexual behaviour that might ‘lead to bullying’, such as ‘sexting’. There are also very few charities in the UK devoted to bullying. One of the few that I found posted latest accounts revealing a yearly income of just £626.
Act against Bullying : One of the very few anti-bullying children’s charities in the UK that hasn’t closed down in the last couple of years due to lack of donations and funding. Total Yearly Income : £626 (yes that’s just 626 pounds, compared to the 135 million pounds that the NSPCC, which deals almost exclusively with teenage sex, draws in).
Lesson learned? Any MRA who thinks we aren’t going jump at this cash cow like a repressed Catholic schoolgirl finding a dildo under her bed, is living on another planet.
1 in 6 men and boys experience sexual abuse
“The creatures outside looked from pig to man, and from man to pig, and from pig to man again; but already it was impossible to say which was which.”
(George Orwell, Animal Farm)